Have you ever been met with the challenge of someone you love or are close too, that isn’t equipped to deal with mental illness?
Sometimes we automatically assume that certain people will be there for us no matter what. But what if they are not equipped to be?
Let’s say your closest friend becomes distanced upon finding out you are bipolar. It isn’t because she thinks less of you but better yet, she is afraid of saying the wrong things. Is it possible for some people to not be able to wrap their head around mental illness? Not in the form of opinion but in general.
Lack of education tends to shy people away from subjects that may make them look uneducated. It isn’t up to us, the amount of something someone can take, but shouldn’t they at least educate themselves? For their loved ones? I find that most people will go the extra mile for those they adore but can we judge those who can’t? Does that reflect their love for us?
People may seem to chose when they can be supportive based off of their capabilities. But what if what they are capable of doesn’t satisfy our need? Do you throw away years of friendship? Harbor a resentment or simply understand that they just cannot be supportive of a particular matter.
For instance, if someone were to fall and begin bleeding, i could find someone qualified to help but I wouldn’t be the one to administer help. I have a fluid phobia that prohibits me from coming in contact with bodily fluids. This doesn’t mean that i do not care for my friend yet i simply can not be of assistance. I freeze in fear at the sight of fluids excreting the body. I have the same lack of reaction with everyone, including my daughter. It pains me but it is my reality.
We have comfort zones and or fears that limit our abilities. To an outsider it may appear selfish but it is the needs of self that come first. At times our limitations will be met with resistance and it is important to respect the boundaries of others without triggering a negative response.